Hi Yoyo, just catching up on your sitch. Happy New Year.
Still should consider the Plan A/Plan B. Surviving an Affair by Hartley. Your H is fencesitting and he needs to jump on your side of the fence for good. As long as the OW is in his life everyday the addiction for her is still there. Only no contact with her will make the transition for him to come home for good. As long as the OW is there the A will always be on the backburner. I know your H wants to come home but he might need that extra catalyst from you.

You have done a great job and the patience of a saint. Take care.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09