Love ya, honey -- I have all the faith in the world that you will find solutions to all your difficulties.
You are smart, articulate, witty, loving, fun, patient, disciplined, caring and hard-working. And more!
For now, forget your worries -- TIME to take care of YOU.
I know exactly what you mean about the porn thing -- seems we all know how porn spam works -- curiosity or "the urge" opens a flood of windows -- and people get real defensive about it.
You know I've been down this road -- my H was doing porn for a LIVING, which sparked our crisis -- and that had to run its course.
My eyes were opened -- and I said "NO MORE!" too -- but I also learned to laugh at the balloony babes and be BETTER IN PERSON than those artificial cartoons -- put yourself in the picture.
Mabye get even? There are also zillions of DUDE SITES that could help you turn the tables -- tan men, big men, young men, muscle men, beautiful bods aplenty -- don't let yourself fall into the trap of thinking you are LEFT OUT. Because YOU TOO can have access to eye candy.
You're tired of your H's getting defensive, I know. You're tired of doing all the work in the R, I know.
So -- time for a change.
Take your bb break if you need it -- we're all here for you and we love you no matter what.
But what about SURPRISING YOURSELF with a fling -- just hop in the car and drive to the beach. Arrange a sitter -- have your hair done -- charge the credit card -- and go.
Smell the cinnamon buns at the bakery in a resort town. Buy yourself a new bikini and a CD player and some Zydeco discs. You need the breeze in your hair and the sun on your face and seashells in your pocket. Get the kids souvenirs on your way home.
Take a vacation -- you NEED one, love. You need someone to treat you tenderly -- look in the mirror and give that wonderful woman a break.
Focus on YOUR MAGIC. Cuz you are very magical.
Love ya, certainly understand, offer all my support, KNOW you will be fine because you have all the skills you need, and then some!
