Okay, honestly LL, if I were to find out that some of CJ's endless hours on line were spent on porn sites I WOULD be PO'd in a BIIIIIGGGGG way.
For ME, it wouldn't be the principle at all. It would be the sneakiness, and most of all the fact that things are NOT great in the sex department with us.
So I KNOW you're hurting as well as angry. I just think that handled the right way, this could be a real catalyst for your and your H.