may be his "one true love"?

[pearlharbr]

WIT,

Please do NOT snoop or ask about OW. I speak from experience. I have details that did nothing but hurt me to the core. I think it stretched out the most painful period for me before I could turn the corner and start to detach. Not that I'm there 100%, but it is much better now. My BF works with OW so I could speculate about what's going on with them every single day or just let it go and focus on myself.

And you were right to file for separation. As my DB coach said, don't be a doormat, just keep the door open. You need to protect yourself financially. If I take away just one lesson from all this it is that I have to take care of myself because no one else will.