I agree with you! You can be mad at my H because he is maddening!
Mike,I get what you are saying. And obv. he doesn't want to be in bed with me or he would be there every night. But I just don't get why he keeps coming back. Like you said Kim didn't come back to your bed. A lot of spouses on here don't. So I don't know why he is a human ping-pong ball, in/out, in/out.
And the impression I got today is that from H's eyes, I am the one skating on thin ice, on probation, so to speak.
Like one wrong step from me will cause him to walk. Sorry, but if anything it should be the other way around, but I am not choosing to be that vindictive.
And it isn't actually "working on it" if EITHER of us is looking for reasons to leave instead of embracing the reasons to stay and working from that angle...
I mean I know I set my boundaries but they were big, wide boundaries. Not like, "If Dan forgets to take out the trash, I am leaving"...
He seems to be so sensitive that the slightest thing from me that isn't what he wants to see/hear makes him run. Well I will not stop being me...
