Quoting lostlove:h has intimacy issues that keep him from being intimate with anyone. but then again there is that rare occassion when there is an appearance of an actual human being there.
A BIG part of DB'ing, and being solution-oriented, is focusing on the times that these "rare" occassions do occur.
What's happening then, what's different during these occassions, what was happening during the times leading up to this, and what can we maybe do to help re-create these times again. starting to think these occurances are more about him than they are about anything I'm doing.
What can we do to make it "less scary" for them to "expose themselves"? on the off chance that they do expose themselves, do your best to not personalize what you hear. What can we do to make it easier for them to connect with us, or better yet, to "re-connect" with us? heck it is easy....he just has to want to...and for what ever reason h doesn't want to...of course he can use the same ole exuse most men would use..."we just aren't like that" "things just don't bother me" yada yada yada...guess h never heard the phrase..no man is an island.
