I think you guys are right on the money with the avoider/resolver dynamic. It's probably very much like the dynamic Michele talks about with the pursuer/persued and I think that procrastinator/action oreinted would be related.
I'm seeing how I became more extreme in my own tendancies as a reaction to H's extremes at the other end of the spectrum. I tried dropping the rope, but that was misinterpreted. It wasn't until I EXPLAINED that I was dropping the rope and why, that there was more of a mutual effort to bring things more into balance.
As you both have similar dynamics in your R's, did you also notice that your natural tendancies became stronger as a reaction to your partners' behavior? How have you felt about yourselves if you were overcompensating in that way?
