just know the way he is now is becuase in his mind he couldnt leave if he wasnt acting this way...when there is ow you are not on the radar.....sorry to say invisible...the best thing you can do is the opposite of what you want to do...detach..let him go..dont call him.....I havent followed your thread but there are alot of good books that will help you understand but i think the main thing to remember is while you are trying to understand take care of you too...This is a long journey and the quicker you really let go, thats when you can heal. So sorry you are going through this...
