Just checking in. I feel like H is starting to play his game again. Relationship-wise, I outgrew game playing when I got married... Still enjoy Monopoly though
Last night was pretty nice actually. After S finished allergy testing, I took him and his sister to my parents' for the evening. I was hoping to go out, but H said he wanted to stay in.
Once he got home and relaxed in the living room I said I figured he wanted to stay in because he had been out for work the night before and was prob. ready for a break. He said yeah that was the reason...
We hung out, watched a little of the Big Game last night, then switched over to "Something About Mary". Dan ordered some pizza, and we just chatted and laughed at the movie. I flirted with him and he smiled back at me like he liked it, although he didn't flirt back. I would be my usual 'real bbj' smart a$$ self and he laughed at some of the stuff I said. It seemed really nice.
Then the kids came home, I put them to bed and fell asleep in their room. Woke up at 10:30, H was on the couch. Thought he had plexiglass in his eye from cutting some over the weekend (ok, that was sudden) and was miserable. Moaning, groaning, etc. I asked if I could help he said no. I asked if he was coming to bed, he said he still had to go out and check cows...
So I went to bed, woke up at 1:30 (we got a new mattress in October and I wake up at night all the time now, I think maybe it is too firm for me), went out and H was back from checking cows, sleeping on the couch w a pillow over his face.
I asked if he was going to sleep on the couch again, he said no he was coming...
At 5:00 his alarm went off in our room and I turned it off, he was still on the couch. Night #3 on the couch...
I went out and told him his alarm went off. I asked him if sleeping on the couch was going to be the norm, since it had been 3 nights. He said No, no......
I told him I was no longer going to be whiny and annoying but I was also not going to bite my tongue either (he said if he came back to our M he couldn't keep biting his tongue) and that I was not happy with him sleeping on the couch indefinitely...
He got up and came to bed. I asked him if there was a particular reason he was not in our bed. He said that the two nights he spent in our bed (sun/mon) he didn't get much sleep. I asked if he was uncomfortable in our bed and he said yes. I said are you uncomfortable with me or the mattress (partly joking partly not b/c I haven't slept well since we got the new one). He said hell I don't know it could be the new mattress...
Anyway I rolled over and went back to sleep with our legs touching. He woke up at 6:30 and left quickly as he had then overslept..(so obv. he CAN sleep in our bed )
I sent him a little message at 7. Just said I was glad we were able to talk about things openly again and that I understood he wasn't comfortable in our bed so I wouldn't force the issue. Then I said I enjoyed hanging out last night.
I thought that was a mature step forward in our open communication...
He replied back "We need to discuss this tonight"
GRRRRRRRRRR
That has twice been his phrasing for ending it with me, "We need to talk tonight"...
I am not apologizing, I don't think I did anything wrong. As half of the couple in this marriage I have just as much a right to voice my concerns as he does. I should be able to say, "I want you sleeping in our bed" without him chalking it up to being whiny and annoying. I didn't cry or nag or moan or bitch. I just said, "Hey I don't want this to become the norm, you sleeping on the couch"
I just find it juvenille to say "We need to discuss this tonight" and not elaborate....like a veiled threat to hang in the air all day.
Still enjoy Monopoly though 
