Hi LL,

Quite a post. Your "friend" sounds a tad touchy to say the least...I always suspect people who get all upset when their "integrity" is challenged...seems to be the ones with something to hide. JMO

I play games for fun, so I'm with you on every point here, (but whose counting, right? )...CJ and I make up our own games and rules all the time. Whatever will make it FUN!

It sucks when "toxic people" can ruin a good time by virtue of their very being....sorry, LL, but this "pal" seems to fit the bill. Is she always this way, or was this an exception?

We have a couple of pals who can be quite annoying, self-centred, shallow, show-offy...we just don't see them as often...try to hang with folks who raise our spirits, not rattle them!

It's too bad that your H didn't jump to your defense...but I'll be the whole thing made him feel uncomfortable. Maybe HE feels that you could have "towed the line", just to smooth things over, even though SHE was being an A$$.

He is entitled to his feelings, isn't he? Would this fit with H's social style? Are you the more outspoken one? I get the feeling, perhaps you are.

So, what is my point...hard to remember

Oh yeah! LL I think you may be letting your disappointment in H (it would have been very nice to have him back you on this!) spill over. It happens.

Thus the football thing (although I definitely see your point about the "men only" deal ) is probably much BIGGER because of it.

Would you LIKE to go to a game? Why not ask? The gender rule's been nixed....

LL do you make football nights a little rough for H? Are you mad when he gets in late? Frosty the next day? All understandable, but also good reasons for him to put off telling you about it!

Sorry, but CJ used to wait until the last minute to tell me about business trips (yes, even legit ones ) when he knew days earlier, just to put off the reaction he'd get from me.

He said he was scared of me LL .

And as for the discrepancy in "big purchases" for him and her...that's something that can definitely be negotiated! Come on LL! You KNOW you can work with that one....I THINK part of your problem is being a stay at home Mom, the money feels more like HIS. (I know a bit about this as until a year ago CJ earned 75% of our household income).

Well, guess what? What YOU do there is worth a bloody fortune and NO ONE on the face of this world could do it like YOU do! YOU are MOMMY, You're STILL there, you deserve a comfy reading chair!!!

I think you should make this a goal .


Shiny