Was that a speedbump or a milestone?

[Bworl]

I believe they must crash, and sometimes crash spectacularly, before they ever fully open their eyes to the falseness of the decisions they have made.

I believe that they eventually do crash hard. I believe that they suffer tremendously as they begin to absorb just what they've done, what kinds of things they have brought in to the lives of those they once pledged their love to.

And I know now, over two years removed from my divorce, that there is no way in hell that I would ever want to be too close when that crash occurs.

Your wife is just now beginning to grasp the implications of the life she has chosen.

Will it lead her to truly examine her heart and realize the falseness of her choices? Who knows. Seems like some do and some don't.

I know it must take incredible honesty with yourself to accept that you could have screwed something up so terribly. And I can see how some would avoid that forever.

But if they won't do the work, they also won't be back.

I do believe that your wife is not done with you Sleeper. At the very least, she is not prepared to be without you. I'm not sure she ever really considered what divorce would mean.

Is that enough to bring her back? I don't know.

I do know that you can't sit around waiting for her to decide.

Peaceful co-parenting is the goal. DB'ing, in terms of trying to restore the marriage, should be taking a back seat. DB'ing, in terms of continuing to sharpen YOUR game and reclaim your life, well that's always a go.


Blessings,

Bill