I know what you are saying, h4h. You are trying to be the nice, sweet guy that you SHOULD be. It's who you are and it's a good way to be. But, can you see that it isn't right to act like nothing is wrong with your wife, that it's ok for her to be with another man while you are married, even if you ARE separated? It's not right to act like it's fine. If you want to act "nice" because you believe it is the right way to be, then you are going to have to tell her every time you see her how wrong she is because if you aren't going to show her you at least need to tell her.
What would Jesus do? He would forgive, but he wouldn't praise and support someone doing the wrong thing. He would try to teach them. Usually with a parable. You could always do that.....
