i know in new york, child and spousal support comes before his car payments. you need to speak with an attorney.

i know u are hurting, i am in a similar situation. it is hard and it stinks and the ow has no right to contact you.

but u must get legal advice. i know that in new york, the money can be set in place without even having a formal separation. it can take affect very quickly...

me: 31
H:29
Son:5
m:8 years in november
t:10 years
first bomb: 10/06
moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08
ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06
d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08
moved home:3/09 out again 5/09