Quoting lostlove: So the new plan for LL, contrary to what most may "think" or read into what is going on, is to simply sit back and have some more of that patience crap and give h a chance to meet her needs in his time.
You're probably gonna do this but it bears repeating...while you're being patient ("patience crap" huh??? ) acknowledging h for all the stuff that he IS doing (even if it may not fall under your "LL") is an excellent way to expedite the process.
Sage
been doing that all along sage...all along. thanking him for cleaning up the table. thanking him for anything that he does no matter how small it may seem. heck I even thank him for hugs and the occassion when he does initiate more. I thank him for calling just to say hello. I thank him indirectly for taking such great care of the yard by telling him how great it looks. I compliment him as often as I can (but must admit that I've let up a bit on that becuase he constantly told me I was biased or just plain nuts for thinking he was handsome or smelled good) when he goes on an appointment for a prospective job I wish him luck and ask how it went afterwards. when he "complains" about a customer or employee "issue" I at a later time ask how it's going.
not saying I'm doing it all and doing it all right...but I really think that a big part of the problem here is that I am too vested in the r...the "family" the m and need to be a bit more selfish. I find that when I do (an sadly it's typically as a result of an argument or a tension that makes me pull away) distance myself a bit and do more of my own thing h seems a bit more interested.
another thing to look forward to is the winter..let's all hope that the fact that it rained so much will mean that it wont snow a whole lot and h will be around more.
) acknowledging h for all the stuff that he IS doing (even if it may not fall under your "LL") is an excellent way to expedite the process.
