Ok, I went back to only your last thread and this one and this is what I found, in relation to you contacting/talking to wife:
12/20- "..had a short convo with wife last night..." 12/21- "...the wife called...", you call her, she asks you to stay for dinner 12/22- You email her (you ask about doughnut), she calls and you have 2 hour convo, you invite her to Christmas 12/23- You call w about kids fighting, then you email her (joke around), she calls again. 12/24- She forwards you an email 12/25- She comes for Christmas (you don't share about that) 12/26- Email exchanges between both of you, joking again, she meets you at mall for an hour, you send email to yahoo account 12/31- you have some convo with w, joking around, she calls 2 times, you invite to dinner, she declines 1/1- She calls and tries to chit chat 1/2- You email, she calls, you finish email, you joke with her again, you invite her to marble falls 1/3- You talk to w at night 1/4- She calls, you give her burgers 1/6- wife calls, wants you to bail her out since she is running late, you meet her in lot, joke around 1/8- You email her another witty remark and go back and forth
So........seems to me there is a lot of contact and even if it is kid related it is very jokey/chatty. YOu invite her all of the time to eat or come with you places. If there is no kid related thing, she or you seem to contact each other anyway.
Sugar is right about the damage control of spouses that have had affairs. When you make her feel the conseqences she tries to make herself feel better either by getting angry or sucking you back to friendship. LIke Karen said, I think if you let her miss the sweet,kind, funny guy that you are she just may come around a lot quicker.
