My ex's prior secretary called me today.
She wanted to check in with me to see how I was doing. We were close when she worked for my ex.
She told me that ex is losing many clients due to angry outbursts. He seems not to be able to control himself. One of his clients was a very elderly fellow who ex lost his cool with. Ex's old secretary told me he had to go into counseling because he was really affected by how harshly ex came across.
So sad.

She also told me that ex is not telling anyone that we are divorced.

I am remaining very dark. It has helped me so much. I actually feel I could continue my life like this forever.

Hope everyone is doing well.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11