whateverittakes, keep posting here...don't talk to H. Actually the more you know about the OW, the more it hurts you. The anxiety will go through the roof if you go looking and find something or talk to him about her. I've been there.
You know that there is an OW...what else do you need to know.
Also try to live in the present. It really works. The past is done so you can't do anything about it. The future is unknown and hoping for change only causes pain. If you just think about right now, things will be OK. Every time to go forward or back you will feel pain right now. Force yourself to stay in the present.
