Actually, I don't have a working printer and I was going to print it in a large font for easier reading for his family. However, if I don't end up with the printer problem resolved, I'm just going to hand-write the letters. One for his parents, one for the brother and SIL in St. Louis. The other brother and his family are the ones who have been clear about not having communication with me (and he just started chemo this week) so I'm leaving them out--they already have the information and have chosen to disregard it, apparently.
As for the bishop herself, my chances of getting an "audience" are slim. I have already talked to a few different people on his discernment committees, who were shocked to hear and are in positions of decision-making. There are too many Episcopal priests at the moment, and it is a million-step process; I don't get the impression from the folks that I know that he will sail thru it by any means. I don't think that ordination is anywhere near the top of his list of current priorities anyway.
I have also considered informing OW's adult children about the real story of mom's new lover. Probably wouldn't accomplish anything, tho, and might be stepping over the boundaries. One of them recently had a baby, the other is newly engaged--so they're not little kids.
The other thing is, I was considering talking briefly with employee assistance, since I can no longer afford private counseling. I don't know if they might be concerned about the breach of ethics in their chaplaincy department. In my experience, tho, involvement with EA is rarely a positive thing, so I'm not jumping on that.
Last edited by hoosiermama; 01/09/0901:07 AM.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
