Quoting lostlove: maybe I should get certified in esp rather than ems...that way I can know what the heck h is thinking or trying to communicate...since he doesn't like to use words and I'm tired of trying to read him.
LL
Is this in response to a specific event? Or just a general comment? Is this in response to a specific event? Or just a general comment? mostly a general comment. see other post explaining the "pattern" of argument. this lack of words but leaving me to "read" actions doesn't always allow me to feel resolve with the particular "argument"
Just wondering, Sage
PS What happened at C the other day? well let's see....I figured I'd make mention of the quality time thing...the door was opened by the c for that as he typically starts by asking h how things are going and h rambles on about being busy bla bla bla...c asks what we have been doing with the summer...I get into wanting more qt and feeling a bit slighted that h can't or wont make the time and yet will make the time to go to a football game that keeps him up and out til the wee hours...h finds that whole statement "unfair" and from there the back and forth crapola goes. h saying things like "get over it" in reference to his a and leaving...but in another breath says "it was a point in time that should not have happend it was a mistake" but then asks me the unfair question of "are you happier than you were before?" it is hard for me to answer that objectively and I let h know why...I express to him that yes part of me is much happier than beofore but part of me is not...the part of me that is still dealing with the a, the dishonesty, the abandonment etc. that part of me is not happier at all. so it's not a fair question to ask. I don't really feel like we got anywhere and I expressed that as c was trying to schedule next appointment...I said I didn't want to bother to come back as it seems it does not get us anywhere but in a neg place most of the time (mind you c does make statements like "let's not get into the past" "let's focus on what's going on now" but also realizes that some of what's going on now for me is connected to the a and his leaving) c scheduled an appointment anyway...just incase I change my mind or want to go in alone (don't know if I'll bother) we didn't talk all the way home and then upon ariving home found a ton of mischief caused by son that needed cleaning up (mind you he was home with mil so how theese things occured I don't know) so that just threw me over the edge (they were ridiculous things ie...every egg in my fridge was smashed the kid is 4 for petes sake he knows better) and I told h that I would be leaving him if things didn't change and with that I went out for a ride and to buy more eggs for breakfast. there were no more words but when I went to bed (h was already there) h did move to be closer to me? weirdo? and then the next day called asking about my eye appointment and other stuff "as if" all was well..and even initiated sex when I got home that night after class... weirdo? why not say something anything? it confuses the heck out of me. and THAT is why I'd like esp or mind reading capabilities...because h just doesn't like to use words when they seem most relevant.
