possibly or perhaps or maybe these are ld people...in ssm I recall something about the ld at first upon entering a r (or in our cases re entering) they seem like they are hd only to then return to their ld ways. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
do you still get a chill each and every time your w touches you? --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Well...actually...sometimes... Typically, it's a warm feeling in my heart. Jeez...I sound like sap!
I'm not refering to those sentimental special hugs or back strokes...I'm referning to any time that she happens to come in contact with you...like if she's handing you something and your hands touch...the kind of stuff that "in the begining" would be like a WOW...but now seems like ya so what...is all I was talking about.
Well, ya GOTTA know if anyone can commisserate on the football fiasco it's ME!
Actually, LL, when CJ and I were engaged and living together, about 4 months BEFORE our wedding, some gal pals threw a lingerie shower for me.
MY very first clue about my married sex-life to come, was when I got all "gussied up" and walked into the living room (I'm talking painful stillettos and all!) CJ just looked at me, said he was tired and went to sleep!!!!
God I can still remember the get-up I was wearing! I was dumbfounded, and it sure put a stall on my efforts to "dress up" for lovin'. (Not to say that I haven't since, but I KNOW how much deeper the sting is when you've made yourself that obvious!)
Shiny
P.S. Glad to see you back in "fighting" mode, vs "I'm outta here!"
Quote: P.S. Glad to see you back in "fighting" mode, vs "I'm outta here!"
"fighting mode" is just easier and less complicated than "I'm outta here" mode...suppose I should just take on the I don't really give a crap anymore mode...ya, in fact I think that's exactly what I'll do...just not give a damn anymore...two can play at this la zai fair attitude toward marriage...I'll simply absorb myself in my kids and myself...go to the gym at night instead of staying home to share a life with h...heck I'll look better and feel better and not have to feel like a "bad mommy" for putting dd in the day care there...I'll do more reading...we've got two tvs so if I want to watch tv I'll just go to whatever one he is not at (unless of course he happens to be wathcing something of interest to me.) I don't care to engage anymore into this r...it is what it is...h gives what he wants and how dare I ask for more...what an insult that is to him..after all he's just trying to be himself...I should just be happy that he's here.
Quote: However, for some people, when the fight is unbearable, they decide that it's time to quit. That is an individual decision. If you're at that place, you are entitled to feel that way. You need to follow your heart- not because working on your marriage isn't worth it, but because your husband is currently too self-centered to recognize the benefits of making marriage work.
maybe I should get certified in esp rather than ems...that way I can know what the heck h is thinking or trying to communicate...since he doesn't like to use words and I'm tired of trying to read him.
Quoting shinybear: ,,,You just sound SOOO fed up!!! So are you going to follow through? If you do, I'm dying to see how your H reacts...do NOT underestimate him, LL!
Shiny
I have backed away a bit...well did straight out say after c the other night "I'm gonnna leave you" it seems h is trying a bit harder...no outright apologies for things...no words..but he's trying something...I plan to just continue doing what I'm currently doing (wich is not being cold it's just not really bothering much) and see what happens.
ok poe I'll look into the tapes but honestly...would you have read anything or listened to anything BEFORE w actually left/ got involved w om?
Quoting lostlove: maybe I should get certified in esp rather than ems...that way I can know what the heck h is thinking or trying to communicate...since he doesn't like to use words and I'm tired of trying to read him.
LL
Is this in response to a specific event? Or just a general comment?
Just wondering, Sage
PS What happened at C the other day?
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
,,,You just sound SOOO fed up!!! So are you going to follow through? If you do, I'm dying to see how your H reacts...do NOT underestimate him, LL!