XH won't ever realize that he is potentially setting up his R with his girls up for disaster by introducing them to his "friends". Children have a tenuous grasp on the moral compass. I hope your example is the one they chose to follow.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
XH won't ever realize that he is potentially setting up his R with his girls up for disaster by introducing them to his "friends". Children have a tenuous grasp on the moral compass. I hope your example is the one they chose to follow.
Sometimes I feel my jealously and yes, my love for xH clouds my thinking regarding the girls meeting someone else. I try to put them first without letting my emotions for xH get involved. But yes, I agree, they don't need to meet anyone new at this time.
EDIEMARIE!!!
How are things? I can't find your thread, do you still have one? What's going on in your world????
Journaling:
xH's sister took the girls for an overnight with their cousins. I missed them so, but boy they are having sooooo much fun! I will gather them after work, they will be so tired, but I can't wait!!!!
On Christmas eve, OW's H had called me, left a message, wishing me a Merry Christmas. I finally called him back yesterday. They are separated!!! He moved out in September, wow. We talked a bit, and he just said he didn't trust her even though she was really trying, that he has seriously lost faith in their marriage. They have tried everything, so they are separated. Neither one is rushing for a divorce though. I feel bad for his kids.
OW and xH are not seeing each other, he was fairly confident of that. Said that OW 'confessed' to her close friends about xH last year and that alone might keep her from contacting him, but who knows. Ironically, I am not too worried about them seeing each other, as long as the kids aren't involved.
Now two GOOD things: 1. OW's daughter didn't make the cut off for kindergarten next year so I don't have to stress about her being in my D4's class! I was worried about that, and debating on speaking with the principal. Yip yip yippeeeeee!
2. I am going to Florida with my girlfriends in February. All I have to pay for is airfare (around $200)! I have never done this before (gone away without the girls), and I am excited, and nervous. I know, I need to do this, but I'll miss 'em like crazy. I approached xH about my trip and he was fine with it and will cover the days.
Sun, my best friends, probably a little alcohol. I can do this!
What amazing news! Now all you have to worry about is paper cuts and holding the scissors wrong for Kindergarten!
I didn't realize OW and her husband had been working on their relationship. Both people have to be willing to do that hard work and have incredible patience to get over that hurdle.
Florida.. that sounds like a beautiful idea. Getting some space and lots of downtime will re-energize and rejuvenate our most precious lwb. *hugs*
lwb - I went to Fl in 8/07, and it was great to get away (I took the kids with me, but relatives watched them while I met some DBers, too). And Feb is a MUCH better time to go!
Stinky about the job, but the good news seems to have balanced life out a bit, at least. I agree about the OW - I have been much more relaxed that she moved out of the house across the street.
You seem to be doing so well, and keeping the babes right where they need to be. Happy New Year! Its all up from here!
