can anyone think of something that might be the problem? in my opinion, i think my husband needs ic. he once confided in one mutual friend and he couldnt say anything but the best about me. he had said it was never about me. and the friend said, then why are u leaving?
I see what you're saying. It does sound like your H is having an MLC and in that case I think you could have a perfect or almost perfect marriage and that could happen. I don't agree it's always a 50/50 thing. In my case I think my H was very distant and so it made it easier to have an A, and then he became horrible when he started his A, just treating me like dirt.
But I do think there were things I needed to work on myself, and I also think we had different love languages. I'm a Words of Affirmation person, and my H is an Acts of Service. If you haven't read the Five Love Languages I would definitely recommend that one. If you can't think of one thing you could change about yourself or work to improve, then maybe IC is the answer and if your IC thinks you also have absolutely nothing to work on or improve then I might try to find another IC that can help you more on that... Karen
