Hey Miss Gypsy....here's to a great 2009' for all of us!
The holiday's went well, with minimal contact between us other than Christmas Eve & day.
I told him right before the holiday's that I wanted to get going on the legal aspects, as I'm sure he does as well, & he should serve me. By his response, it didn't sound like he was really that eager afterall. "Uh, yeah, how about a week after the new year."
So, I was cruising right thru until we got to New Year's eve. He was supposed to have my nephew & S5 for the night, but ended up dropping them off @ my mother's house @ 10pm. Said he wanted to go surfing early, hope she didn't mind ;-)
I drove by his house when I got the message at midnight. No one home.
I left this message, "Wow, this kind of behavior from a grown man is stunning. To wake the kids up & haul them over to my mom's so you could go be with a woman shows incredible lack of character & disrespect for other's. I went by your house to see that you weren't home. I don't have anything else to say, except please don't try & get the boys tomorrow when you finish up pleasing yourself & are ready for their company when it suits you."
The phone calls started coming when he turned on his phone on. He showed up in front of my mother's house, begging to talk to her & apologize, after she told him she didn't appreciated being lied to & played for a fool.
Anyway, they talked for an hour on the phone when she didn't let him in (1st time they ever really had a conversation in 9 years).
So, he got an earful from Ms Easygoing that he didn't expect. When he said the OW started out as an affair, she asked him what is it now....still an affair.
It sounded like a productive exchange with him asking her if she thought we had a chance to have a successful marriage.
Nothing's changed on my end, as far as only contact for the kids, etc., & only if absolutely necessary. Something's changed for him it seems, I just don't want to spend any time trying to figure out what. If he has come to a different awareness, it's going to take a lot more than subtle hints to get my attention.
