Quote: Doing this has probably shifted his image of you a bit. You've been wanting him to see you beyond your roles as wife and mother, and doing things like this could help cause that change to happen. From both sides of the coin. Makes it a win/win situation for you. to be certain it will in the end do a great deal for me...a sense of purpose in the town (provided I actually get to go on any calls, we are a volunteer town) I know that h does respect me for doing it but it also doesn't seem like I get much props for it becuase well as said by him "I knew you could do it" it's not that he thinks I'm incapable of doing anything other than being wife and mom..I have only been wife and/or mom for 6 years while we have been "together" for almost 15, thing is he "knows" I'm capable of anything I put my mind to...an I'm proud of you would be nice to hear from him though. funny you should use the word "coin" just makes me think of a statement regarding the fact that I will be doing this (emt) as a volunteer for the town...h made the statemtent "and maybe eventually you'll get paid for it" now that could be taken many ways...but I take it as he'd like for me to bring in some cash too...as before son was born I worked full time and turned my check over to him.
Quote: If you "think" that you're meeting resistance regarding this, and it's not all falling into place like you think it "should", don't let that stop you. Maybe the less time you make available for him because of doing these types of things, the more time he might "make" for the two of you when there's a chance? and of course the eternal pesimest that I am says...key phrase..."when there's a chance" it's always been "when there's a chance...when I feel it should be "I MAKE the time because I recognize the importance of time" I will continue to do for me more and more as the kids grow up and enable me to...son starts pre school in a few weeks...that's three mornings a week that he will be in school...I plan to get back the gym (dd can play in the day care at the gym) and while the weathers nice go roller bladding with dd (she didn't seem to mind as much as son who after 5 min wanted to go home)
