I was kidding, LL. Actually, I agree with you. It should not have been that important to him. And you had gotten all gussied up for him? Guess I must have missed that in your earlier post. Well, if it's anything like "sitting in front of the fireplace in nothing but a thong", well, you wouldn't have to ask ME twice, that's for sure. OK, you're right. It was worse than I thought. It's humiliating to put yourself out there, only to be rejected.
Quote: for him to at some point in the day to have said something like "I'm sorry for how things went last night" I never knew that pre season games meant anything to him...he is a season ticket holder and more often than not doesn't bother to even go to the pre season games as they are just that pre season. Plus it still falls into the same line of something else is more important than me...I don't do that to him...and perhaps that is my fault and not his...it seems that no matter what I'm doing...he thinks nothing of pulling me away from it. but then again he doesn't seem to be as bothered when and if I do decline (trust me it doesn't happen often enough for me to decline) he simply says ok and off to bed he goes and makes an attempt the next night at wich time I inevitably give in. (as if it's giving in)
Again, stuff I can definitely relate to (although it's been so long since I rejected my W's advances that I'm not sure how she'd react now). But back to this case, I still think your H is "apologizing" in his own way and trying to make it up to you in your language. I don't think he realizes even now just how deeply such rejection cuts you, since he doesn't think of what he's doing in those terms (he just sees it as a "let's wait until a little later" thing). True, words plus action would be better, but if you have to choose, which form of apology would you prefer: words only, or action (i.e., his initiating) only?
