Quote: You initiated during football? What the HELL is wrong with you? We've been waiting 7 months for football season, it's finally here, and NOW you're initiating?
first of all it was a PRE SEASON GAME!!! I know better than to even try to say boo to him during the ACTUAL season. as far as the NOW YOU'RE INITIATING...heck I've been turned down for sleep, for the news, for any numerous number of reasons...but to be turned down when I actually made that extra attempt of getting all gussied up for it was down right humiliating.
Quote: Wait a sec...he didn't actually decline, he only requested that you wait a little bit? Not totally unreasonable, is it? In his mind, he could have his cake (watch football til halftime) and eat it too (uh, so to speak), if only you'd kindly wait a few minutes. You're being oversensitive to rejection is what caused the problem, not his request for a slight delay.
h did not say "give me a few minutes till this quarter ends" he simply said.."you've got my attention, I'm watching the game" I didn't feel inclined to sit there for another 5 min (or longer cause as we all know with football just cause the clock says 4:46 doesn't mean actually 4:46 it could mean 15 min or longer) plus who knows with h...he has inored such things in the past as well...ie me sitting in front of the fire place in nothing but a thong.
Quote: ersonally, I think that when the problem is his rejection of your initiating, the single best solution is HIS initiating. Really, what would've been better?
for him to at some point in the day to have said something like "I'm sorry for how things went last night" I never knew that pre season games meant anything to him...he is a season ticket holder and more often than not doesn't bother to even go to the pre season games as they are just that pre season. Plus it still falls into the same line of something else is more important than me...I don't do that to him...and perhaps that is my fault and not his...it seems that no matter what I'm doing...he thinks nothing of pulling me away from it. but then again he doesn't seem to be as bothered when and if I do decline (trust me it doesn't happen often enough for me to decline) he simply says ok and off to bed he goes and makes an attempt the next night at wich time I inevitably give in. (as if it's giving in)
