Quote: but things just seemed to balance a tad better back then.
Why?
I don't know, but although I think my W's LL is "acts of service" (AOS), I'm not entirely sure that it used to be. Or...maybe it was, but we were not M'd, so who'd know since we didn't have a home together...a home that requires lots of work.
In a new R, is someone's LL AOS? Perhaps it's buried under the surface, as that's certainly not the focus in a new R. But where does their focus on more of the physical aspects become lost? Is it just the newness of everything that leads our Ses to provide more physical touch than they would otherwise? Likely...
So then, how do we recapture what we had both when our R was new, and when our Ses first decided to "come home?" I, like you, am frustrated that my W is not exhibiting the same "intensity" as she was right after she chose to give us a second chance. It's gotta be in there! Perhaps it was the joy of having the tremendous relief of us not telling them to got to he!!.
Sorry for the rambling...I'm just trying to figure this junk out...
