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When the bomb was dropped on me, my reaction was disbelief. What could possibly have been so terrible in my M that could justify my W's departure and drive to an A with the low-life scumbag she got involved with? How could she be so awful, why can't she see that I was the better choice? When will she open her eyes and return?

It is true that the A was an obvious and terrible violation of our marriage vows. But fidelity is only one of many vows we took that day. To honor. Respect. Protect. Love. After my self-righteousness abated I was able to see that W didn't simply leave, but that I had a part in driving her away. It ultimately takes two to repair a M, it often takes two to destroy one as well.

I say this because it sounds like you don't have a lot of insight into your part in your marital problems. Few of us do. That why we are shocked when the bomb is dropped on us. I am not saying it is your fault. I am not saying H doesn't have work to do or that he doesn't have a responsibility to regain your trust and prove to you he is worthy of you.

But I think if you dive deeper into your R, you may find there are deeper issues than him wanting more sex. IC may help you in this regard. Unless he sees from your actions that he is not returning to more of the same, the chances of him wanting to return are pretty low.