Well, the not feeling so good hit again last night. Darn it!! I was not a happy girl but I went to bed early. I was tossing and turning a lot but just kept telling myself I would feel better. When does this stuff just go away??
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I assume you mean dealing with your D, not your illness.
It will never go away, unfortunately, especially since you share kids. I still have issues dealing with XW, even 5 years later. But the difference is how it affects you and how you deal with it. And if you take a look at your progress over the last year, I think you are doing great. XH affects you still, but I don't think you let him dictate your actions like he used to. You are moving in the right direction.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
i did mean my cold/flu whatever it is actually! but yes, I did need to look at where I am at in regards to the D and the soon to come B. It will relieve a lot of pressure soon. Does not mean that I like it though.
I am getting my financial plan in place. Getting my savings to a healthy amount is foremost. Then replacing my 16 year old car which hopefully will make it to 18!
kat
PS: G it is so nice to know that you still lurk around sometimes.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I check on the old gang almost every day. When I was in crisis mode, I was frustrated with the lack of successfully saved M's. Even if I have nothing productive to say, I want people to know that there are happy outcomes out there.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
I am glad that you are doing so well. I stay here because one: I don't feel like my thread is a constant party. lol and two:I am not ready to go. I am a work in progress. The issues of the divorce don't end just because some paper was filed some where. Like G said, they are on going. My ex doesn't bother me nearly as much as he used to. What's the point of fighting? I just wonder if he will be able to hold his tongue when(if) I ever start to date.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
What's the point of fighting? I just wonder if he will be able to hold his tongue when(if) I ever start to date.
kat
I don't know, I've been less friendly to H, not exactly fighting, but feels good! Just once in a while maybe? And the answer is: NO!!! Sorry you're still feeling under the weather, Kat. Are you getting losts of rest and juice??? Karen
As much rest as one can with 4 active and sweet kids!! I bought juice but not working well when my stomach is upset too. I am just trying to slow down.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I had the same thing...took a long time to get rid of it....on and off...felt like I was better, than, BAM, I was feeling yucky all of the sudden. Rest is best.
Ex came by to get the kids on Friday(when I went home, sick) and we all noticed he had a bunch of stubble. D10 asked him about it and he said he would shave later, just wanted to be a bum for the weekend. When he came to take the boys to school, the stubble of course is more prominent. I didn't say anything but I asked him on more than one occasion if he would grow a beard and he always said no, I don't like the way it looks on me.
What will be next, hairclub for men???
kat ps I guess he doesn't have much else to "throw away" for the affair, so all he can do is make changes to himself to make "them" happy.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Take care of yourself. When I was sick, it took almost two weeks before I actually started feeling human again. Rest, rest, rest...and more rest.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option