Maybe it's that I feel like my marriage is over and done with and my goals concerning my wife have evolved into something else.
I have zero expectations of reconciling with her. I've gotten to where I live my life for myself and my kids.
I did come across a success story of sorts. A couple of months ago, I met a business client that came to ask questions about his accounts because he was separating from his wife. Married for about 20 years. One child a senior in high school and another in junior high. She wanted out of the marriage. He ended up moving out into an apartment and was finding it very difficult and was depressed. We spoke at length about his and my sitch. He thanked me very much for being an ear and for advice I had given him.
He came to see me yesterday. While he was still separated, she had decided that they would seek marriage counseling with a counselor that was referred by their church. I told him that that was great news and that something like that was all we could ask for. To make sure and try everything they could before calling it quits. I asked if he had heard of Retro and he said no. I printed the same packet that I had given the wife. I had it saved on my computer and he took it yesterday.
Today, he came in to finish up some business and told that his wife told him to thank me for the info.
Sounded like she had gotten a glimpse of reality of life with out him. I asked him if he thought that there might have been a third person involved and he told me that he had really thought about it and that to him, there wasn't. He kept doing things with his kids on his weekends and would invite the wife along. He would also provide extra things for her. More than what they had agreed on. She would tell him to stop, because it made her feel bad. Extra money or groceries and things like that. He let her know that he did for not other reason other than, that is who he is and that he wanted to make sure things stayed peaceful so that he could continue to see his kids with no issues.
When the WAS is involved with another person, I think that success stories, as a percentage, are next to nothing. Not that it can't happen, but nearly impossible. Especially considering the length of time that the affair lasts, much like mine has been with OM.
Okay, I'm rambling now.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
