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[mdoodles]

i appreciate everyone's advice. i am as patient as they come, i just wonder if holding on will only allow him to continue. that maybe he likes having both of his worlds. i just dont know.

as far as knowing what attracts him to her and what i can do to be like her - lets see - she is an immigrant, from eastern europe. she is of a completely different religion and background than me or him. he basically rebeled against his entire upbringing and way of life by choosing to have an affair with her. he is a manager in a factory and she was one of the workers. she only worked there for 2 months, she is no longer there.

when he was pushing the divorce i had a feeling she was looking for marriage to keep her in this country.

anyway, the only thing that was "wrong" in our marriage going back over 2 years ago - he wanted more sex, which now isnt an issue. i think when we had our son it affected him because it took the focus off of us and left less time or interest in sex.

again, not the problem now and he knows that. i know he likes alot of attention so i do the best i can to give it to him and asks questions about his day and his job.

so now what? what else can i do? i feel like a fool acting like nothing is wrong when i know and he knows he is still with her. but i dont know what else i can do in terms of taking a strong stand without still being friendly. and if sex was the problem, i feel like i shouldnt withoold that either...