Puppy, I had hoped you would respond because I do value your opinion.

I want to do this because I want my H back even though it seems opposite.

H has worked here 16 years and has had a good career and is well respected till he had work issues from this summer which I think triggered the A (started off EA and went to PA). OW was there and I was not.

OW has been here less than a year but making good money.

I do hate to see his career shot down but I am not the one who has done this.

I have prayed and prayed for God to guide me on this. Some days I know fully it is the right thing to do and other days I still am trying to "protect my H" . Do you think it is the right thing to do from a man's perspective?

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09