I think you're actually fairly consistent in giving your W the message that you do care about her and will always be there for her. You need to pull back and stop all the emails that aren't necessary re: bills and kids. You don't do that.
Honestly, you are so funny and sweet. I think that if you actually ever pulled back and did a good job at doing that, your W would miss you horribly and actually have to think about something other than eating cake. But if you want to keep living in limbo, go for it. Karen
Except for the funny & sweet part I think the same could/has been said for me and my H.
Originally Posted By: hopeful4her
Question for you, beej. You said that when you felt like your H was angry or mad at you, that made you try to engage him to get back to friendly. To make yourself feel better.
Its a textbook response by a wayward. My H does the same thing with me. Its damage control for them. They do/say/act in whatever manner they need to in order for them to basically shut you up and allow them to continue the cake eating.
Unless or until something truly changes, it will remain status quo. Its what I finally realized and am no longer willing to put up with.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
