LL: I can remember that when my h left the first time home, my cousin and lawyer adviced me going to his new rent apartment, with champagne, a lovely underwear cloths, and seducte him... I didnt dothat but i commented my c the advice my larwyer had gave me, just initiating the separation and crisis explotion process... and this were the words of my c "never do that, bc the rejection that maybe you will receive will hurt very much your self steem... is more what you will lose than win... and even he accept your invitation, and you both have a great sex, when you return to the crisis panomarama, you will also feel hurt and have a very low self steem..."... and yes, he is so right... You need to take care about yourself and be a little selfish when you plan some moves... proyect your self steem, bc in their crisis all of us had lost too much in our self steem... andrea
