i have a hard time thinking im not the more attractive option. i couldnt be prettier, i couldnt be thinner, i couldnt dress any better. and he knows it. i go to the gym 5 days a week and do plenty for myself, out with friends and take our son independently everywhere.
what other changes could i make?
It's not about physical attractiveness I don't think. I think usually the OP is a downgrade in terms of looks. It's good you are doing the physical stuff and working on your physical appearance, and it sounds like you're doing great on that.
It's hard to suggest changes and 180s for you since I don't know you of course. You might want to think back to complaints your H had about you in the past and if you know anything about the OW that will give you ideas also. Some you may want to change and work on and other maybe not. I know my H didn't like my lack of independence and needed to work on my self-confidence so I've done that. He also likes career-oriented women (OW is an attorney and absent parent). I'm a devoted mom, and I'm not going to change that as that's how I want to live my life. So you have to do that kind of looking at yourself.
It sounds like you just need to be patient more than anything as your H is moving towards you. I was told by everyone when I joined here that patience is the thing you most have to have in this process. So GALing to keep yourself busy and work on those areas and things will work out well. Karen
