Also, and I am not trying to sound counter productive, but ask yourself what would you do tomorrow if you were D’ed . Would you have to get a job? If so do it now. Would you need to look for daycare or would your mom be able to help? Be a strong independent mom and show your H that you will not crumble without him. Yes you want him in your life there’s no question, but as he is now, it is only toxic to have him around. If he continues to be toxic, and files a divorce, you need to be ready for that. Part of GAL if building both a life that your spouse will want into, and a life that will allow you to grow as a person. He is mad and petulant like a child. Getting mad back does not help. Just like with a temper tantrum YOU need to be the calm one. He lashes out with locks and divorce, you respond with utter control and say : “ Fine. You want to work on a M I am here but I will not be victimized by you either. I am you W and at the very least a friends and when you want to treat me like at least one of those here I am”
