So, I spoke with h today and told him that is what not ok what he did. I dont know if its good dbing or not, but I had to tell him. I said, we agreed to work together regarding son. It was not ok for you to tell him two days before you told me that you were leaving. And then to walk up to me and say after 18 months, well, I am going to live with ow's mom and I am leaving in an hour was not cool.
He said he was sorry that he handled it that way. He just avoids and thats why he is where he is. He should have told me years ago that he was unhappy instead of waiting.
I made it clear that he cannot do this again regarding son. That if he is talking to son about us, I need to know. I said it is his choice how this unfolds. That I want to do the right thing regarding son. I want him to feel comfortable coming to both of us and being around both of us. I told h that if he continues to talk about us to son without my knowledge that I will assume that is how he wants it to go and will be forced to do the same. I again stated this is not how I want this to go, so the choice is his.
Then I said, I cannot afford to owe anymore of his debt. That he has to file so that I can be protected from any futher debt. That I do not want to file, so would he. If not, then I have no choice. He said he would. And that was the end of the conversation.
