Seeing things for what they really are... #52

[sandycay]

Been following your thread still and am very saddened at his lack of passion to come back (& I don't just mean sexual). I went back to rereading some emails the H and I exchanged in the beginning of our coming back together. Now I know that every situation is different but still there are huge things that are missing that are necessary for a coming back together.

It's a hard road under the best circumstances. I can't see any type of healing for Kalni until he admits, feels remorse, wants her more than air, calls, text, apologize a lot, whispers sweet nothings in her ear, brings flowers a lot, compliments her, the list of things that were there in the beginning. Romance and Passion. Love and understanding. Compassion and admittance of wrongs.

I understand why you need and deserve these things kalni because without them, I wouldn't be piecing with my H. My IC says my H should write the book on how to come back to a marriage.

I feel your pain sister, because when I reached my hand back out to my H, if I hadn't got back in return what I did, I would be as lost and frankly pissed off that I screwed myself again.

I am glad you have set some kind of boundary (deadline) to this behavior. It really is dragging to much.

He's checked out and it would appear he's just not that into you. I think it's because he is still broken and hasn't got his sh*t together. I am not saying that he doesn't love you, care for you, or need you. What I am trying to say is he hasn't figured it out yet how to do it because for whatever reason he's not MOTIVATED enough yet. He may get there and he may not but you need to focus on yourself again and make your self happy.