ow loves to call

[gForce]

Oops. Sorry, I glanced at the number of your posts, but now see that you have been DBing for the last year. Still, if ow is still in the picture, patience is still very important.

I guess I didn't mean physically attractive. Be a comfortable safe haven when you are with H. Don't do things to "shake him up", just do things to be a better you. You know by now the issues within yourself that contributed to your marital problems. Make a list of things that will address those issues. But again, until H will agree to verifiable no contact with OW, it is unlikely that he will make any genuine effort to work on your M.