am I just an eternal pessimist?

[Jamesjohn]

feeling like I should have let it go but it's too late for that now isn't it. cripe!

I'm not too sure about that, my dear.

As clumsy, awkward, and unproductive as it may have felt, I think that you two had a good little spurt of communication here. Much better than than just holding things inside and letting them fester into resentments, don't you think?

You asked for what you want, and as for what he did, "he realizes it wasn't the best solution he just didn't know what else to do." Now he knows that what he did "didn't work".

It's too late to go back and change just what happened that day, but you know what? I'd place a bet that if a situation like this happens again, things might go just a little bit differently! Maybe not perfectly, but closer towards that direction.

As for when you get home tonight, try to "act as if" you've put this last situation to bed, and expect the evening to go well, and see what happens. Sweep all the eggshells off of the floor so neither of you have to step on them, and start fresh.