Quote: I guess my point is that you are currently looking for reasons to minimize everything he does, rather than looking to "catch him" doing nice things. Yes, the little things he's doing may not seem like much, and he could be doing them as a cover, or without thought, but maybe you should consider the alternative - that these things are his little ways of showing love. He probably doesn't remember that he did those things during the A, doesn't realize the hypocrisy, ah but you realize the hypocracy don't you? so cut him a little slack. I'm sure my W has absolutely no idea that her sweet kisses and warm goodbyes can sometimes send shivers up my spine.
Of course you and I do. But we're highly sensitized now. We've gone back and scrutinized, analyzed, and dissected every inch of the past for clues about what the hell was going on, how to interpret it, and how to make sure it never happens again. He hasn't (few in his shoes have). The little things he's doing to show love don't guarantee that he actually does love you - you know that now - but that doesn't mean they're meaningless.
Quote: The book of Michele's I was referring to was "The Sex Starved Marriage". Wouldn't it be worth at least seeing if you could get him to read it? No harm in asking, right? Maybe you could get him to read chapter 1, and continue if he found it interesting. I've already mentioned the book to him a few times...he's not interested.
I'm still thinking there's got to be a way to break through his resistance to hearing you on this subject. Hmmm...
Quoting lostlove: I've seen divorce...I don't like it...not for the kids and more importantly not for either party involved, it's going to take a lot for me to truly quit...a full waw "alien" I will never be.
Well, that's good to hear. I already knew that about you, of course.
Glad to hear you got the phone hang up thing resolved. When something bothers me that much, I usually can't let it go as long as you did - my fuse is shorter. Now if he's halfway receptive tonight, go the other half yourself and get this episode behind you.
