I agree, he ain't getting it, just ignore him and let him go get his nookie somewhere else.
He is a big boy and can do his own laundry, and get his own meals.
Spend more nights out and let him watch the kids, if he ain't available, just pay the money for a good sitter, he is making enough with all that overtime.
Also start your planning your escape now. Make sure you can attach his wages for CS, and I am sure you can get alimony.
Good luck, I sure you can find a man who wants you and your kids, I know Tony would move there in a minute. What do you think about Florida
Poe
I am just going to assume that you are trying to play devils advocate here poe...cause it would seem to me, if I recall that my h isn't acting much different than you did before you w left you.