The thing that is funny is I pay my bills. I don't really get mail, because I do everyting on-line. But I receved 4 pieces of mail in both our names or in my name and allhad to do with her and something she did, wrong!. I slept good last night. I prayed for Him to watch her.
I picked up D17 last night and she took in W's mailto her. Stairs were slippery so I got out of my truck to help D17 down the steps, she laughed about me helping her, but I didn't want her to fall and hurt her ribs and collarbone again. W was watching out the window when I did this. I never acknowledged her.
told D17 to study for her permit test over the next two weeks. I will quiz her every other day and after a couple of weeks I willl take her for her test. W has taken her 3 times and she failed all 3 times. I will quiz her and make sure she knows it. this way she will have her permit before I leave on my trip in february. I may have a shot at a car that is in great shape physically, but doesn't run. I may be able to get it cheap and fix it up for her to have. Once she gets her permit, I will sign her up for Drivers Ed. she seemed very excited that I have looked into this. I had told her I would if her grades improved and if things got better. She asked why we don't just sell the house or take in borders. I know where that was coming from and I explained it to her.
She had wanted me to pick her up earlier than I did, I asked why and she said she was bored. I said I thought you liked hanging ourt with your mother, she said we just sit there watch TV, make comments, I mostly talk to the boys. I said well its nice to spend time with your mother, all she said was "Mmmm." I am getting the impression she is not enthused about going over to her mothers as much as I had thought. I am seing her mother calling for D17 to go over to her place mon-thurs. She basically is invisible to D17 Fri-Sun. She is trying to give the appearnace of a connection with her. Now I know why D17 is distant when I pick her up, she sees it, and knows its not that tight. Oldest D talked to her mother Monday. She told her about her dog they just got and W said she wants to come down and see the dog. D was pissed, she can come down and see the dog, but not me, or my son? Screw her. My MIL is comng up soon for a visit. D17 told me last night that Nana doesn't know when she will be up. I said i knew becasue her husband has medical appointments (heart problems). She said, Oh, Mom was just talking to Nana and just found out. She then said, guess you talk to nana more than her own daughter. I let it go. I do not comment when these things are thrown out at me.
I did read some info on signs of the WAS hitting the rocks. Financial seems to be the number one thing and then everything else begins to fall into place. It was funny, one of the hitting the rocks was realizing no sense of family. And the other was the realization that you did this to yourself. There are a few others that get them thinking about the path they have chosen and looking to see if they can turn it around. As it has been indicated to me here, some feel in their minds that they are so out there, they won't even try for fear of rejection. the ones that do not try tend to lead very poor lives and bounce from bad relationship to bad relationship. I had to re-read some MLC stuff last night becasue I was looking at W's current sitch which is not good.
25Year had posted to me that "life will show her the consequences of her decisions". Boom, there it is! This is brutal on her, I told her I would call her Friday about her car insurance money she owes. I am thinking I should back off, but then again, I didn't put her in this postion, plus i don't want to leave any hints that I know how bad things have gotten for her.
