FLTC, I am happy to hear that gym woman is helping you keep your sanity! Sounds like the relationship is good for both of you.
I wonder how others deal with things they hear that the kids say about the other parent. I don't pump my D18 for information, but I still love hearing stuff that goes on with her dad. Isn't that crazy??? (especially stuff like "they were yelling at each other about....."). I KNOW my D18 is not 100% accurate, though, so I have to be careful! How can you balance out having your children talk to you, but not be gossipy (is that a word?)???