Donna you have grown SO much. You are doing great. As you continue to grow and move forward you will only be better for it. Learn from the past but do not dwell on what MIGHT have happened if you had done things differently.

Originally Posted By: oldtimer
Right about so very much in that post, but wrong on one point.

Your children will BENEFIT from your what you have gone through and your growth. You are the one that is growing past co-dependence. You are the one who can show your kids how to live in a different way. I don't think XH is there -- my bet is that he traded one co-dependent R for another.

Because of you, your children have MORE of a chance to be more whole than they ever had before.


That is great ot. I am going to remember that for myself also.

Me 54
DS19 and DS17
Married 06/1989
Divorced 01/2011