Why did you feel it was necessary to announce this to your H?
Just curious. Seems like you were fishing for something to me.
And I wanna t-shirt too. Could mine be wet please.
Truthfully it just came to me today and so I told him so he would know. This is not about what he is/isn't/will/won't do. It my choice, my decision and I'm pretty upfront, in case you hadn't heard and that is the way I do things. Its what I feel I need to do for me. Its not what I want, but I can't imagine being here a year, 2 years, 3 years, etc...doing the same thing. I love him enough to let him go. I really don't feel like I was fishing, as I didn't put it such a way that any comment or response was neccessary. Its the choice I am making, its about me.
If I send you a wet T-Shirt it will make the envelope all wet....
Originally Posted By: hopeful4her
Made ME laugh. Puppy's trying to figure it out, and here these two are already and didn't realize it.
I only found Pup today and added him as he was having trouble finding us. See thats the Sugar part...LOL
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I'm not much on timelines but in your case and to keep your signature line from getting any longer I would suggest a timeline and think you've picked a really good date.
oh geez am i a ding bat or what? guess i should pay more attention lol!
how are you doing today?
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
If I send you a wet T-Shirt it will make the envelope all wet....
Very funny.
What? Isn't that what you meant?
Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee
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I am filing for divorce on April 1, 2009
now that's sick and twisted.. have I ever told you I love sick and twisted?? and for the rest of it.. good on you..good on you.. I'm not much on timelines but in your case and to keep your signature line from getting any longer I would suggest a timeline and think you've picked a really good date.
Not trying for sick and twisted this time, this is just what I have to do. Can't even explain it, I just know its time.
For all intents and purposes, I'm actually doing pretty well. I'm not mad or anything. I'm just living my life.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
but doesnt part of you feel good just living life? for some reason the past few days have felt amazing to me. today might get icky, as I know he is probably going to break one of the boundaries, but alas, his choice his decision, I cant control it, and it wont control me.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
And that's about all any of us can do. Live our lives the best way we can. With or without the nuckleheads.
But I gotta say, and its just an observation, you sound beat, suga. You DON'T sound mad or anything, but just....like you've been beat.
I know that feeling. Realizations can do that, I guess. And it might FEEL that way, but guess what? We are so much stronger people because of the hell that we've gone through.
And whatever happens will be the right thing for you.
Bear hugs to ya'.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
After much soul searching and weighin options and other stuff I have decided that if nothing has changed, meaning there are still 3 people in my M, I am filing for divorce on April 1, 2009. Why that date? First: I think its funny.
Perfect. Reasons 2 and 3 are logical and all that, but I like your first reason. Sounds good to me. Karen
