We stepped into another restaurant on the way, and then found the place he was looking for. He had thought it was Cafe MXXXX (where we met for the evening), but it was actually Cafe MZZZZZZ, where we ended up eating. I said it looked good, we went in and they told us to sit anywhere we wanted. I asked him where he'd like to sit and he said, "I picked the place, you pick where we sit" with a little smile. I got sort of flustered looking for The Perfect Table and I turned to him and said jokingly, "i hate this, can you just pick the table? I promise I won't be mad!"

He picked a table and sat down. he complimented my coat. I spun around and showed him the embroidery on the back. It was REALLY hot in the restaurant but I felt self-conscious about showing off my sexy shoulders ( \:\( ) so I kept on my layers... I asked him to tell me more about what charities he was thinking about donating to for his brothers, and he told me about this charity research website he had found that was really helpful, and how he found out about it from the church he used to participate in, in Boston.

B asked me how visiting my family was and I said that they had been gone a lot of the time that I was home, because they were helping my cousin move (and he has a woodshop and an enormous collection [like hundreds or maybe even thousands] of giant goldfish). Including on new year's eve, when my mom had wanted to celebrate by watching movies and dancing, but I ended up going running and doing yoga to celebrate new year's alone.

B said, "did you know that the french for goldfish is 'poisson rouge?'" (literal translation: "red fish"--and the name of a hot club here in NYC were he plays sometimes). He said he learned this when he was telling his cousin's new wife, a Parisian, about a recent gig. he also explained that his cousin "did not believe in marriage at all" but basically married her so she could stay in the US and they could be together. I was in the process of telling him about a teacher at my grad school who was from Scotland and when she first was working in the US, she dated this man and when her visa was about to run out, she basically said, "Do you want to get married or not, because if not, I need to get on a plane and go home" but in the middle of that sentence a waiter came to talk to us.