I let my W know that this was my house too. Coming home in the early morning is not showing respect for our household. By cooking what I wanted and not caring about the smell, I was showing her this is my house too. She also said that our house didn't seem like a home. Then her life started to fall apart. Friends started moving away and her finances were getting away from her. I think her MLC started getting better, but not without being miserably silent. On the flip side, my stuff was getting better. People noticed how it was more her than me.
Flicka - I starteed reading about different things that people tried. What worked the most for me was to stop worrying. Somehow my W saw enough to know she didn't have an effect on my moods. Don't get me wrong, I still slip and often, but when my PMA is up she isn't as happy.
