Right about so very much in that post, but wrong on one point.
Your children will BENEFIT from your what you have gone through and your growth. You are the one that is growing past co-dependence. You are the one who can show your kids how to live in a different way. I don't think XH is there -- my bet is that he traded one co-dependent R for another.
Because of you, your children have MORE of a chance to be more whole than they ever had before.
