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[Jayce]

Older sisters, hmmmmm Did you get babied a lot or just have two extra moms watching to see you didn't get into trouble?

I know you said you're a slow reader, but if you still have Mars/Venus, finish reading it. Also the Sex on the Brain book. THat one has some stuff near the beginning about which lobes of the brain govern what and how brain chemicals work, like dopamine for one. It even suggests how to adjust diet or which supplements might help a particular problem. It is a little confusing and I found it easier to kinda skim over that part to get to what he has to say about differences in male/female brains. Mars/Venus touches on those differences as did Getting Through to the Man You Love. Even if you eventually get D'd, it'll help you interact w/whatever new women you meet.

You mentioned a number of miscarriages and joined the clipped N*** Club only recently. Any miscarriage is an emotional event, more so for the mother. Also they can be physically painful and frightening. I can see how all that would make sex less appealing considering the risk of another bad time. Even with the pill and all the other ways to prevent pregnancy. The pill can cause mood swings in some women. I knew one in particular who became a real crab on the things & gave them up in favor of something else. (We were all SO happy)

As a manager in a predominantly male environment, I used to mark my desk calendar & check it every morning to remind me not to go off the deep end over events because on other days stuff didn't bother me anywhere near as much. When I took anatomy & physiology we covered the hormone cycle and a few of us were like, Holy S***!! No wonder we feel like crap for a few days! For one thing even a little fluid retention causes pressure on the brain. You can imagine our inside jokes after that.

Your W may really not know why she has LD. The problem is she doesn't want to find out why & fix it. Most of the time physical stuff can be relieved. Antidepressants are tricky, tho. Most interfere w/libido or ability to orgasm. From what I've read, Wellbutrin doesn't wreck libido but helps it. Too bad you can't speak to her Dr. Or the 2 of you can't go together. I'm sure she sees everything you do as trying to get to more sex rather than a genuine effort to help her feel better in general.

I remember one thing I read about affairs: they're never about the sex. Sometimes its a guy who needs to validate himself as being a stud, sometimes its a woman who responds to a guy who actually talks (!!) to her. Sometimes its for revenge. No one ever seems to look at that, they always get hung up on the betrayal of the sex part. I heard a woman whose H was accusing her of having an affair say (dripping with sarcasm) "What makes you think I need to do something like that?" He was such a jerk, I'm sure he missed the message.

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, how's the job hunt going? I'm grateful my H is with a food processing co. People need to eat.

Jayce